The home that I am building is 4000ft and I need just under 5 ton of heat. To me you are way over sized. However I'm in Oklahoma and I'm guessing you are up north so that will affect your heat load. I am not using radiant and not familiar with it so I don't know how it affects tonnage. All that said...I'm not a HVAC guy but I am an ICF guy and have heard of many horror stories of over sized systems in ICF homes. I had my loads calculated by Energywise Structures who specialize in homes of this nature. I would absolutely make sure your contractor of choice has experience and success with ICF.
With the tonnage you mentioned and the options of snow melt and radiant....to me the price is probably close. However if you are over sized the price should correct to your favor.
Don't take my word for it. Like I said I'm not a HVAC guy. Just make sure your loads are right!!