Well now, I don't know much about you and your area, but I do know what sort of stuff works well in our part of the country.
What sort of tape were you pricing out for sealing the foam? We generally use Tuck Tape out in this part of the country. Sticks quite well (when it's warm), and is designed specifically for sealing in water/air barrier applications - works well for foam and Tyvek. I would reccomend taping both the foam and the Tyvek, however taping the Tyvek alone would be satisfactory.
As far as the degradation of the Tyvek, we usually use Typar...it doesn't seem to rip in the wind if it's left for long periods of time on a house, however that being said, I framed a house 3 years ago that was left in Tyvek for about 8 months, and I couldn't tell any difference between the new stuff and the old. Tyvek on the outside of the foam would also be good (if your flashing detail allows it), because your Tyvek can run up and over the windows rough opening, which will seal the rough opening against the inevitable moisture leakage that will eventually occur around the window.