These are just the random thoughts of someone who has gone through the same design spiral as you.
My overall impression is it is a nice looking house from the outside, too many rooms on the inside.
I think you need a fair amount of mass on the inside of the house or it is going to overheat in the winter because you have a lot of glazing. The total glass to wall area is quite high overall, windows will need to be triple pane to minimize heat loss in the winter and gain in the summer. I think you will still have significant sun exposure on the lower windows on the south side in the summer which will cause heat gain. Some external method of shading the lower windows would be good.
One alternative would be to replace some of the south glazing with solar airheaters. I used Yoursolarhome.com ones in my own house and am very pleased. Installed correctly these have very little solar gain in the summer, excellent solar gain in the winter, little to no heat loss at night. The downs side is they are not truly passive and you can’t see out them and they add no natural light
The high low window concept is good for cooling. It might be better to have windows on the North side as the low windows because the incoming air will be cooler as it will be in shade (more so in spring and fall.
If you are going to use natural ventilation, I think either german tilt and turn or casement windows are best overall because they have twice the ventilation area of a double hung and look better on a modern house. As a minimum I would change the window in the bathrooms and in the kitchen to casements.
Bedrooms 1 and 3 in the basement have plumbing directly overhead. This plumbing should be cast iron, or should be soundproofed as the noise will transmit into the sleeping area.
Also it looks like the main entrance to the house is on top of bedroom 3. This will be noisy in the winter as people stomp in in boots, etc. Extra soundproofing will be needed
Inside I think you are trying to cram too much stuff into the house. This is a medium sized house, but you have 4 toilets, 22 interior doors, 2 full laundry’s. You have a lot of plumbing on the outside walls. In a cold climate that is not such a good idea. There is also plumbing in the center of the house and at 2 opposite corners. Frankly this will be very expensive to plumb correctly. Try to centralize if possible or at least stack plumbing on top of each other.
I don’t see any Utility room or chase for accessing equipment. Stuff breaks, make sure it can be repaired without tearing out walls.
The other thing I would do is install 2 tubular skylights and pipe the light into the basement Hall way and basement bathroom which has no natural light. I think this will make the basement much more pleasant living space.
There is no shopspace indicated but you have a garage indicated so that is ok I guess
I count around 65 windows in the house total. You should probably go for south facing high solar gain triple panes and low solar gain triples on the north east and west. The windows will make or break this design so I would figure on about 20% of the total cost being windows to do this right.
Looking at the plot plan, I would make sure the grading of the driveway to the garage does not funnel water towards the foundation. You will have to be extra careful because the basement is living space and MUST be waterproof. I would talk carefully to the excavation and foundation waterproofing guys about this. I would want Perimeter drains in 2” stone as well as under slab drains in compacted stone. I would also go for 4“ of XPS under the slab as this will be conditioned space. Make sure you account for this so the headroom is correct in the basement. I think it would also be worthwhile to use an ICF foundation, again because the basement is fully conditioned and living space.
I don’t know if your architect friend is talking numbers with you but that looks to be an expensive house to build well. I think I could build that design correctly in Connecticut for ~ 600-700 K$ depending on what you wanted for interior finish. I think I could cut a lot of corners and build it for ~ 425K. You would hate me later though.
Amazing how much work goes in before you get to break ground!
Good Luck,
Eric Anderson