My tradiational foundation was quoted at 28,700 compared to the same items in ICF foundation I'm about 15K more
Something is not quite right here (as you know). The numbers should be close. Apparently, you are in a area where there is quite a bit of competition for traditional foundations (it that poured in place?? or CMU??) because in many areas the ICF is less. I would ask a few more questions before putting more of a house on less of a foundation.
Your 2x6 numbers appear to be closer -- does this include insulation foam, tyvek, plywood, additional AC tonnage required etc. etc?