I have worked with a company called Ray-core (
www.raycore.com) that may help with some of your obstacles. They manufactures a SIP that integrates studs into the panel so you get awesome structural strength will getting a R-42 on 2x6 walls. Their website says that you can get R-52 out of a 2x8 panel, but I have not used the 2x8 myself, at least not up to this point. I realize support is not your biggest concern, so maybe that can do studs on 24" centers or possibly 48" on center. From my understanding of their product, the less studs you use, the greater the increase in R value.
These panels would also solve your problem about delamination because they do not laminate like a traditional SIP, they inject the foam while in a press so there is no chance of delamination, as opposed to gluing foam to OSB. They come pre-wrapped in reflective vapor barrier so thay is also going to give you a bonus.
Check them out, it worked great for me and I think it would help with several of your issues. They are easy to work with and will help give you ideas without any obligation.
Good luck