What engineer said
We have a 4 ton water to water heating our indoor pool and some radiant indoor heating in our home as well. I am assuming this is for an outdoor pool and you would heat it in spring, summer and fall. In the spring basically you will just cool the field down a bit more which will help with AC in summer. If the unit has a priority of the house you might not get enough pool heating time, but some it better than none. Also it could potentially be plumbed to cool the house while heating the pool. In our case the heat pump is always heating the pool and then either dumping the cold to a coil in our furnace or to the field. The switch happens by an AC call from the thermostat.
Honestly if I had to do it again I would have gotten a 2 ton for the house and a 2 ton for the pool and shared our 5 ton field. Then the pool could call for heat anytime and the house could call for heating or cooling as needed.
Efficiency wise the water to water would be the best but the system gets a bit more complicated control and plumbing wise, which is why I am guessing he wants to keep them separate. For pool heating I would choose an air source heat pump over gas, propane or electric. But solar hot water would be my first choice.