Ice & Water is VERY vapor retardent (so it's important to have sufficient R outside the roof deck & membrane when you go that route) but it can also be useful and reliable as the primary air-barrier.
Since you're on the transitional edge of zones 4 & 5 you'll be fine with R20 foam, and R30-something in the rafter bays. ( It's unlikely you'll be over R35 in the rafter bays at any cellulose density.) In a solidly zone-4A location the IRC prescriptive value drops to R15:
http://publicecodes.cyberregs.com/icod/irc/2012/icod_irc_2012_8_par100.htm
Any air gap is better than no-air gap, and even some underlayments for metal roofing are fairly good about wicking & dispursing bulk moisture that finds it's way behind the metal. On Block Island snowpacks that stay around for weeks on end are all but unheard of, and on a metal roof of any significant pitch it'll slide off shortly after outdoor temps break freezing, so the prospect of a steady drip-drip-drip saturating the foam is pretty remote, unless you have very low roof angles. XPS won't take on much moisture anyway (iso would, over extended soakings), so as long as you have a very good WRB at the roof deck, it doesn't really need much in the way of drying capacity.
You may find
Hobbit's Deep Energy Retrofit details on the roofing membrane, foam-over, and slip-surface under metal roofing issues useful. They managed to screw it up in a few places, to be corrected after the fact, and the installers were apparently clueless about what the correct slip-surface material was. (The whole thing is a fairly entertaining read, with lots of useful detail pictures and discussion. I met the author/owner back in April when he attended an open house on a deep energy retrofit I had been involved with last year. He's definitely not your average homeowner- he knows how to read the materials specs with the best of 'em!)