Here is roughly what the front of the house will look like. The front porch slab extends 7' out from the front wall and is 38' long. One end of the porch will butt up to the back of the garage (garage doors on left side of image below). The garage slab and front porch will be built on strip footings built up as required with CMU. The front porch will be ~2-3' above grade (in the image below, grade slopes gradually downward from left to right, and much more so from front to back - basement is walk-out). Beneath the slabs will be compacted fill (most likely fine sand or rock crusher dust). Also for the garage and porch slabs, 8"x8"x16" CMU will be stacked up in vertical columns approximately every 4' on the footing and next to the basement wall. These will be filled with concrete during the slab pour. This will provide additional support in the event that the back fill settles any. The purpose for the rebar tie to the ICF wall is to insure the slab doesn't pull away from the ICF wall for any reason.

I did state that I would glue the flag type anchor bolts to the foam, but that is probably not necessary if the bolt fits tightly. However, I have found that a coating of Titebond II wood glue really sticks stuff to EPS insulation. And it is cheap.
Regarding the ledger for the back deck, I did not want any interruption in the brick veneer from the footing to the eves. My intent was to have the flag anchor bolts protruding out from the wall, then have the brick layers brick around them leaving only the 2-1/2" threaded portion sticking out to attach my ledger board. I would likely apply some tape over the bolt threads beforehand to keep any mortar from sticking to them.