Thanks gspike

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I did finally find it at a masonry supply yard. Only found a couple of places that carry it. Was called Ivory (not the colour- that's the product name) finishing lime. Manufactured by Graymont. It worked very well for me.
I also learned a bit about sand. The first sand I tried was "construction" sand. Not too good, but luckily this was only with the scratch coat over metal lath. If anything it's probably very strong, but it is irritating as heck to work with because of all the pebbles that ride over the lath. Next I tried a "play sand" which was mentioned. Pretty good, but still not fine enough. Then, when I bought the hydrated lime, I also bought some silica sand. The salesman said it was "the right stuff" but even then I felt that was not likely as it looked to be all one size of particles. I tried it and was right. You really need multiple sized particles probably from the size of almost dust to even smaller than the silica sand.. It is nice looking though- pure white. In the end I hand sifted the play sand from before (I used an old window screen I had lying around). This seems to work pretty well- still I'd like a bit finer, and I think I'll hunt around for marble dust too next time I try this.
All in all I'm pretty happy with the results so far. The finish coat is done and I have done a white wash. The stucco is "fairly" straight

, and I didn't want a perfect finish actually. On the other hand I don't want it to look like a hippy hut either. There's a fine line..
Now I'm looking to finish it with a tinted white wash (maybe iron sulphate)- just a tad to warm it up. Also I want a bit of texture and lightly burnish down the high spots. might use a furry roller, then come back with a trowel. If anyone has any good info on stucco finishing techniques, I'd really appreciate it.
I'll post images when it's all done,
Thanks,
Yaleh.