Do a google search for geothermal case studies. There are 1,300,000 results .
As far as the two bids go, they can't be offering the same service. On a project that size, you are in the drivers seat. Ask for a detailed breakdown of what is included also a price just for the drilling and piping. Say that in order for the bid to be considered they need to give you the information you want.
Ask them for the heat load numbers they are using to size the system. Each bidder should have comparable heat load numbers.
At some point you might want to hire a Mechanical Engineer to do the heat loads and design the system, then have contractors bid according the specs from the engineer.
You can
go to this site for a list of contractors and designers in New York.
Good luck and keep us informed.